“There is no one giant step that does it. It’s a lot of little steps.” Peter a Cohen.
Making any type of change is hard, it should be broken down into tiny pieces making it easier to carry out. Nothing happens overnight, it takes a lot of hard work, time and patience. Sure, there are a few that will become successful easily, but not everyone is one of them. Any step, no matter the size, is progress.Small steps are key, they keep you moving. Think about the steps you take.
What are you trying to carry out right now?
How are you approaching it?
What steps are you taking? Are they working for you?
How could you break your goals down into small steps? The smaller the better.
Can you see how those steps will help you carry out more?
“Success is going from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.” Winston Churchill.
Nothing saps your enthusiasm like multiple failures, it can make success seem impossible..Being enthusiastic in the face of failure is difficult at best, it takes tons of energy to keep going. It will make you doubt yourself or the path you’re on. Failure is self-fulfilling, it will make you doubt everything which in turn attracts more failure. The stronger you are, the more determined you will be of failure, it won’t beat you. Think about your own enthusiasm.
“Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt.
No one has the right to make you feel inferior. People can only take away your power if you allow them. You may not even realize that thru your actions you’re giving your power way, it just happens. In my personal experience, people don’t like it when you stop letting them make you feel inferior. It’s a struggle, but well worth it. Think about when you felt inferior and how you may have given consent.
Who makes you feel inferior? How?
Do you give them consent? In what way?
Why do you give them consent? How could you take back your consent?
Is there an issue you need to work on?
What would happen if you no longer gave you consent to be made to feel that way?
If you take no chances and risk nothing, you won’t get far. You need to dream big and decide it’s worth risking failure. There’s nothing scarier than making that decision, it takes strength and faith in yourself.
You need to decide that it’s worth it, close your eyes and step off the cliff. Failure is not really failure if you took a chance, it’s so much better than doing nothing. Think about your dreams and you daring failures.
How big are you dreams? Are you intimidated by failure?
“You can adopt the attitude there is nothing you can do, or you can see the challenge as your call to action.”-Catherine Pulsifer.
Attitude is everything, you can’t act without attitude. It will effect how you face and see challenges. If you see everything as bad, that’s what everything will be. Its always easier to deal with a bad situation when you have A good attitude. It makes finding solutions easier. Adopting the attitude that a challenge is a call to action is difficult. It’s something that takes a lot of practice, but pays off by the truck loads. Think about your attitude and how you face challenges.
Is there something you feel there’s nothing you can do about?
How could you accept the challenge and take action?
What new attitude do you need to adopt?
What do you feel you can’t do anything about?
Do you see the challenge? How can you turn it into A call to action?
“An optimist is a person who sees a green light everywhere. The pessimist sees only the red light. But the truly wise person is colorblind.” -Dr. Albert Achweitzer.
You need to be wise in how you look at things. A red light may stop you, but also gives you a chance to pause and assess the situation. If you always see green lights, you may not be ready for the roadblocks ahead. If you’re colorblind, you can be ready for anything and let nothing stop you. You won’t assume the way is clear or blocked. You can move forward and just be ready for anything that comes. Think about the lights you see.
What color are the lights you see around you?
Do you let a red light stop you? Do you let the green light leave you unprepared?
“I’m not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.” Stephen covey.
We all have different circumstances, it’s how we decided to let them influence us that matters. If you allow one bad relationship to cause you to never get close to someone again, that’s a decision you made. You were faced with the circumstance and made a decision on how you would deal with it. Your decisions decide where your life goes. If you decide nothing can stop you, nothing will stop you.Think about circumstances you have faced and what decisions you made.
What types of decisions have you allowed circumstance to influence?
Did you make the right decisions?
Could you change the decision you made?
What decision would you like to change? What circumstance shaped that decision? Can it be changed?
Are there circumstances and decisions you should put behind you? How can you accomplish that?
“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.” -Les Brown.
Everyone is responsible for their own life, the only person you can depend on without hesitation is yourself. Yet trusting yourself is also hard to do. You need to trust that you know yourself and can handle anything. If you trust yourself, you will lead you where you need to go. Think about if you take responsibility for your life and do you trust yourself.
Are you accepting responsibility for your life?
Can you depend on yourself to get you where you want to be? Why/why not?
What could you be more responsible for?
What changes do you need to make so you can begin taking more responsibility?
Are you working on getting where you want to be?
How could you change and begin taking more responsibility?
“Always look at what you have left. Never look at what you have lost.” Robert H Schuller.
People have a habit of looking at what they have lost, the negatives, we tend to dwell on it. It’s easy to miss what’s left, what’s actually going right. This is a habit takes a line of discipline to change, you have to teach yourself to stop and think about what you have left whenever you find yourself focusing on what you’ve lost. It’s hard to do at first, you just have to teach yourself to be more mindful of what you’re focusing on. Think about what you’ve lost and what you have left.
What three losses do you seem to look at the most?
What makes them losses? Could they be turned into something more positive?
How could you create a habit of looking at what’s left?
“Goals are the fuel and the furnace of achievement.” Brian Tracy.
If you don’t have any goals, how do you know what you want to achieve? Goals are what can drive you. Goals are easy for everyone to set or follow through on. I’ve set tons for myself, goal setting has almost become a hobby for me. I even get started but then drift off, even though I have it planned out and how to get there. Sticking to your goals is hard and takes practice. I’m learning, slowly, how it it’s supposed to work. You have to have patience.Think about your own goals and how they could fuel you.
Do you have a set of well-defined goals?
In the past, how has a goal fueled you? How did it feel?
How could you use that memory to help you now?
What one goal would you like to achieve right now? Do you know how to get there?